"WORK" IN A MARRIAGE What does it really mean to "work" in a marriage? With all of the news about the Ashley Madison site breach I've been thinking about why we commit to marriage and why we cheat.  All of this thinking brought me to the reality of how much work it actually takes to make a marriage successful.  Popular culture has set us up to believe if things don't come easy, they aren't meant to be.  In my own marriage and in the couples that I've counseled through the years this concept doesn't paint an accurate picture. I've been married for 16 years this November and my perspective on working in a marriage has changed over time.  My husband and I initially had [...]